MAN CRUSH MONDAY (MCM) | G-FRESH

And our Man crush for today is the talented actor and singer, also known by his musical stage name: G-Fresh. He studied theatre arts at University of Ibadan and is part of the renowned Afolayan entertainment family. He has featured in movies such as: Hood rush, Heroes and zeroes, Ojuju, Ija okan, just to mention a few and has bagged some awards. 

He has also released songs like the evergreen "Kokoro Ife Mi", Awelewa, Plug it, Kpasa Kona.

We wish him well and hope to see more of him.

Download and Enjoy my favourite song by him "Kokoro Ife":

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IG: @gabbyluccii 

Today's word!!!

Good morning Fam, a new week is here already. Another week to make it right. Gladly we made it to the end of November. Compliments of the season. May the season bring joy and peace.
Never allow the negativity of the world get to you.
Stay happy. Stay slay.

YOUR MIND IS YOUR CAPITAL! by Cyril

I was privileged to be part of an amazing conference- a youth conference- organized by The Believers’ LoveWorld Nation and hosted by (the great) Rev. Chris Oyakhilome, PhD. At the opening night of that conference, he shared a message he titled “Your Mind is Your Capital.” A lot was said about the power we store within us and how possible we can be anything we want to be. I strongly recommend you get that message.

Months later (after the conference), I found myself in a discussion with folks who obviously didn’t understand this life of possibility and greatness, sadly there are people who stay negative all day, everyday. A fellow there was offended with the message rather than inspired and motivated to take actions. He complained that the speaker was trying to make things so simple “without putting other forces- economic and all- into consideration.” Hmm… well, I felt sorry for him for being so determined to be a passive player in life.

This came to my mind today because a story of a beautiful woman I came across. She has a physical problem (I am not sure if she was born with it or came by accident) - she has no limbs, I mean no legs. But do you know what? She refused to allow that condition take control of her life and she turned out a respected model. Amazing!

Our world is full of people who have overcome incredible odds to become famous, powerful and world changers. Each time I hear, read or see these people, I remind myself that my mind is my capital. All I have is ALL I NEED! If you did Sciences in school you would have come across “Euler’s Therorem.” I read about Euler, that in the last seventeen years of his life, he was blind. But very notably, his work and contribution to knowledge was not diminished in quality and quantity. Your Mind is Your Capital!

Dear reader, you have no reason to be a loser, failure or poor…. Take up the challenge, believe in yourself, see your triumph, and fight; fight for the realization for your dreams and potentials. There’s room for you at the top. Again, FIGHT! This is your time, don’t think it’s later; your life is happening right now!

It is not easy out there, in this cruel and difficult world, I know, but the kingdom of God is within you. Go out and win! FIGHT!!!

Quit complaining and show appreciation

While you're going through your closet to pick matching shoes, shirts and pants for the new week, while you're calling your shoe vendor to make orders for 3 more collections, while you're complaining about the gas in your A.C not cooling properly, or may be applying for a raise at your work place, and to some, thinking of how to buy some pets, travel for the holidays, get a bigger apartment, change hotel accommodation, wear the best weave, carry the best of the bags, go for a hip enlargement and a bum enhancer........please take a deep stare at the picture above and tell me what you see. 

I see a young lady, who despite her condition, is strong, happy and grateful for each passing day. 

Let us be thankful for life, which is the ultimate, thankful for our families, thankful for every second and make good use of every opportunity. Try going 24 hours without complaining, really difficult I know, but "do-able". Spare few minutes and read about the beautiful Kanya Sesser. 

Source: @faajihub 

THINKING OUT LOUD COVER BY STAN IYKE

For the Ed Sheeran lovers, i've got a great cover by Stan Iyke whose rendition would blow your mind. If you've never listened to any of his songs please click below and listen to "Darling" featuring Tiwa Savage then take time out and listen to the "Thinking out Loud" cover.

 

IG: @iamstaniyke

TWITTER: @iamstaniyke

DOWNLOAD AND ENJOY:

DARLING feat TIWA SAVAGE

http://tooxclusive.com/downloadmp3/stan-iyke-darlin-ft-tiwa-savage/

THINKING OUT LOUD (cover)

https://marapolsa.com/15660-2/

Compliments of the season Fam

The beautiful season is here again, Christmas. Jingle bells, gift hampers, holiday trips, end of year discounts, family re-union, etc. Take advantage of this period and get awesome gifts for loved ones, colleagues, your workers, friends....

Beautiful hampers from Esty's Hampers are filled with necessary home needs and wants. All you need do is, place a call and get it delivered anywhere in lagos.

Oh well, if you have no one to buy for, nicely ask for my address *smiles

Best Ideas On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get disappointed.
Nobody says it is going to be easy — the extra distance makes many things unachievable. Things could get complicated, and you could get sad and lonely at times. However, the extra distance also makes the simplest things the sweetest, being able to hold the other person’s hand, eating together at the same table, feeling each other’s touch, taking a walk together, smelling each other’s hair… these small wishes could suddenly mean so much more in a long distance relationship.
Long distance relationship may be tough but it has its own surprises too. To keep your love alive and strong, here are some tips to make your long distance relationship work:

1. See it as an opportunity.

Both of you need to be clear with what you expect of each other during this long distance relationship. Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise. For instance, are you two exclusive? Is it alright for the other person to go on dates? What is your commitment level? It’s better to be open with each other about all these things.

2. Try to communicate regularly, and creatively.
Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happening, however mundane some of the things may seem. To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.

3. Talk dirty with each other.
Sexual tension is undoubtedly one of the most important things between couples. Sexual desire is like a glue that keeps both parties from drifting apart. Not only is sex a biological need, it is an emotional one as well. Keep the flames burning by sending each other teasing texts filled with sexual innuendos and provocative descriptions. 

4. Avoid “dangerous” situations.
If you already know that going to the club or going drinking with your group of friends late at night will displease your partner, then you should either 1. Not do it or 2. Tell your partner beforehand so as to reassure him/her. Don’t be careless about this sort of matter because your partner is only going to be extra worried or extra suspicious, and of course, very upset, because you are putting him/her in a position where he/she feels extra powerless/lacking in control.

Also, It could be easy for you to fall into the trap which you, unconsciously or not, set up for yourself by “hanging out” with your office eye-candy after work, or going out with a girl or guy from your past who has been flirting with you. You need to recognize the dangers before entering into the situation. Don’t just listen to your heart. Listen to your mind too.

5. Do things together.
Play an online game together.  “Take a walk together” outside while video-calling each other (skype). Go online-shopping together, and buy each other gifts. Pray together. You really have to be creative and spontaneous about it.

6. Do similar things.
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about. This is a good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart.

7. Make visits to each other.
Visits are the highlight of every long distance relationship. After all the waiting and yearning and abstinence, you finally get to meet each other to fulfill all the little things like kissing, holding hands, etc. which are all common to other couples but so very special and extra intimate for people in long distance relationships. It will be like fireworks, glitter bombs, confetti, rainbows and butterflies everywhere.

8. Have a goal in mind.
“What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?” “How long are we going to be apart?” “What about the future?” These are the questions you two need to ask yourselves. The truth is, no couple can be in a long distance relationship for forever. Eventually we all need to settle down.

So make a plan with each other. Do up a timeline, marking down the estimated times apart and times together, and draw an end goal. It is important that you two are on the same page and have the same goals. So that even if you are not living in the same space and the same timezone, both of you are still working together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.

9. Stay honest with each other.
Talk about your feelings of fear, insecurity, jealousy, apathy, whatsoever. If you try to hide anything from your partner, that secret will sooner or later swallow you up from inside out. Don’t try to deal with things all by yourself. Be open and honest with each other. Let your partner help you and give you the support you need. it’s better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it’s all too late.

10. Know each other’s schedules.
It’s helpful to know when the other person is busy and when he/she is free, so that you can drop a text or make a call at the right time. You wouldn’t want to disturb your partner when he/she is in the middle of class or halfway through a business meeting. Know the small and big events that are taking place or will take place in each other’s life e.g. college mid-terms and exams, important business trips and meetings, job interviews and etc. This is especially essential when the both of you are living in different time zones.

And yes, the waiting can be painful and you can sometimes feel lonesome but you need to remind yourself that the fruits at the end will be sweet as heaven. One good trick to staying positive is to be grateful all the time. Be thankful that you have someone to love — someone who also loves you back. Be thankful for the little things, like the hand-made letter that arrived safely in your mailbox the other day. Be thankful for each other’s health and safety.

Stop Caring about being "Nice"

I was labeled as the nice guy in the first semester in the University. Mostly, because I was shy and quiet and no one knew how to handle that so the kids at school just said I was nice, and it stuck. Looking back at this I’ve realized how detrimental it can be to hold yourself to this standard. When you focus on being nice you end up ignoring how you really feel and what you want, and you let people mistreat you because you’re too nice to tell them to stay off. I think many nice people like myself get caught up because we think we’re being good people. We believe we’re doing some kind of service to those around us by holding back our criticisms and saying something purely nice instead. 
You can have strong opinions and still be a kind person. You can stand up for yourself and still care about what someone has to say. Human beings are dynamic like that. It’s not in anyone’s best interest if you go out of your way to be nice. In fact, being nice can be detrimental to you and those around you in a number of ways.

1. Nice people are seen as indecisive or non opinionated:

 A lot of nice people won’t tell you when they don’t want to do something. Instead, they’ll deflect their opinion by saying things like, “It really doesn’t matter to me”, “I don’t care”, or “I’m open to anything”. The thing is that after consistently deferring the decision-making to the people around you, you can start to lose sight of how you actually feel. Recently, someone very close to me pointed out that I almost never done something I really want to do and that they took this as a sign of mysteriousness. They felt I was still so insecure around them that I couldn’t even answer a simple question, even after years of friendship. What was even more scary was that when I dug deep and tried to give a more direct, opinionated answer, I found I had none

2. Nice people come across as boring:

 If you’re constantly trying to only say and do nice things, rather than have opinions of your own, people may start to think of you as being passive and boring. If your friends and coworkers wanted the opinion of someone who agreed with them all the time they could simply ask a mirror. It’s important to realize that people ask for you opinions because they care about what you have to say. Whether it’s your home or professional life, you don’t want those around you to view you as boring, right? Share your true opinions with others, and they’re more likely to view you as a dynamic and unique person. 

3. Being nice means you’re more likely to be a follower, not a leader:

 A recent article I read, I found that nice people are more likely to follow orders given to them by an authority figure, even if those orders will directly hurt someone else. In the study, researchers found that people who cared more about being agreeable and nice were more likely to follow orders to administer an electric shock that would harm an innocent person (the innocent person being an actor, unknown to the participants). People who were less agreeable and more controversial by nature, however, were more likely to question the ethics of such orders and refuse to shock the innocent person. While we may think that following the whims of others is doing them a favor, you can still be a good person and stand up for what you think is right. 

4. Nice people often resent the people they’re nice to:

 Strangely enough, being nice to people all the time can actually cause you to dislike and resent the people who benefit from your niceness. Constantly defaulting to what others want to do can cause you to become stressed out, overworked, and bitter towards the people you’re helping—defeating the entire purpose of doing a kind act. Most people dislike both extremes of the spectrum—the overly selfish and the overly generous. Specifically, participants disliked the overly generous participants because they made the rest of the participants ‘look bad’. While my goal in writing this article is not to convince you that nice people are weak and that being a total grump is better for you and everyone around you, I hope it will make you consider how genuinely you express ‘nice’ acts and words. If you really mean the nice things you say and do, that’s great. But if you don’t, just say how you really feel. Everyone will be better off for it.  

Source: Tope

NAT 202 by El Poiz©

Hello Ladies..I'm really sorry I have been MIA(Missing In Action) for the past week..I have been under the weather.
Well...we are back for classes.
How are the kinks, curls and coils?
It would be great if you could type in progress reports in the comment box and any problems you have, I'll be glad to provide a solution.

Now, back to the manes....We've been acclimatised with the big chop, 
transitioning and the hair regimen. In the Hair Regimen section, we looked at weekly wash,things to consider when selecting a hair regimen, deep conditioning, LCO/LOC, Night time routine,. This week, we keep on the hair regimen as its a vast topic.

HAIR TYPE
This is one of the things to consider when selecting a hair regimen. Its importance can not be over emphasized. Hair Type basically deals with the definition of the hair curls. Hair types range from type 2 to type 4 with sub types for each(2a,2b, 3a, e.t.c). Africans usually have the type 4 although not all. Attached above are pictures which can help you figure out your hair type. To accurately get your hair type, you would need to wet your hair as this will bring out your natural curls for easy identification.

HAIR POROSITY
Another consideration in selecting a hair regimen. Moisture level goes hand in hand with hair porosity. As I said in a previous class, moisturizing the hair is not an issue, retaining moisture is. Hair breakage is as a result of dry hair amongst other causes so this should highlight the importance of retaining moisture. Hair Porosity is the absorption rate of your hair or the ability of the hair to absorb moisture.

TYPES OF HAIR POROSITY
1)Low Porosity
2)Normal Porosity
3)High Porosity
Low Porosity; also called Bullet Proof, lol,or resistant. Manes with low porosity have highly compacted flat smooth cuticles which makes it difficult for moisture to get in; although once moisture does get in, its difficult to get out.

SIGNS OF LOW POROSITY
1)It takes a longer period for hair to dry when wet
2) Moisture does not get in easily; it takes a while
3)Products applied don't usually get into the hair shaft making hair look like it has a product build up
4)It does not accept hair dyes easily, dyes will need to be added more than once for effect

TIPS FOR LOW POROSITY
1)Use natural heating methods like the baggy method,GHEE cap wear(will discuss this subsequently). This will cause the cuticles to sweel and open up for moisture to get in
2)Use light oils and light creams as heavy oils will be difficult to absorb
3)Apply products on hair when hair is damp for easy absorption
4)Weekly wash and moisturizing deep conditioning is advised
5)Wash hair with warm water and rinse DC's with cold water
6)Protein DC's are advisable every 6-8 weeks

NORMAL POROSITY
This is balanced and does not require a lot of tips for moisture retention. Cuticles are raised enough to absorb moisture .Healthy hair with normal porosity can absorb water up to 30% by weight allowing the right amount of moisture to penetrate and holds onto it well.
SIGNS OF NORMAL POROSITY :
1)Hair absorbs moisture easily and holds it in for a long time
2)Dyes take effect at first application
3)Hardly creates products build-ups if products are used in the right proportion.
FEW TIPS FOR NORMAL POROSITY:
1.Protein treatments best once in every month
2.Light oils and products are advised
3.Weekly wash and deep conditioning.

Have a lovely week Ladies, looking forward to progress reports.

Stay beautiful and Natural.



El Poiz©

Time to share that "moment"

For me, a lot has happened this year, but if I am to pick just one, it would be my mum's  successful retirement.

Our Woman Crush Wednesday (WCW)

Beautiful Layefa Wokoro who always saw herself in the spotlight but wasn't sure how to go about it. She had boxes of make-up, was clueless on what to do about it or how to make fun and create happiness out of these boxes. While in school, her third year precisely, she decided to go for a professional make up class. She started from a mini class and later upgraded to the professional level. She came in contact with a tour artist during her NYSC days and completed her classes with a touch of perfection. 

For the beautiful Layefa, it is not about the money because it's not the driving force. She says it's fun playing with colours. 

We love the beautiful Layefa and wish her well in her smooth journey.

IG: @layefawokoro

The new talent I found....Mr. Cee

Covenant Godwin, aka,  Mr.Cee started singing at age10. He started his professional music in 2002 with his first single hit "Breathe" at Jos in 2009, he made his first tv appearance with Mnet Naija sings were he finished at the top ten. He is also signed with Ark records. He performed at the Miss independance Nigeria at Abuja for the 2015 edition. He is currently a student of Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka, a final year student of  International Relations. He just released his first debut album "Under Cover ", October this year with one of his hit songs,  "Ihe ga eme".
He also plays the guitar well. He believes in Nigeria and prays for unity and peace. #PrayForNigeria

DOWNLOAD:

https://t.co/cih55BmzKi

Facebook: Covenant Godwin

Twitter: @I_AM_Mr.Cee

10 things you should never do during a job interview

Here are 10 things you should never do in an interview.

1. Don't Arrive Unprepared

Take time to learn about the company and the position you're applying for. Gathering a few basic facts shows motivation and will help you know what questions to ask later. Also, prepare by bringing along extra copies of your resume or CV; some interviewers may be pulled in at the last moment and appreciate your forethought.

2. Don't Show Up Late

No surprise here; don't show up late to a job interview. In fact, pad your schedule by 20–30 minutes just in case the train is running late or you can't find a parking spot. Arriving to an interview five to 10 minutes early is completely acceptable and gives you time to mentally prepare.

3. Don't Leave Your Phone On

If your phone rings during a job interview, you'd better hope there's an HR director on the other end of the line with a smokin' hot offer. Ringing cell phones and formal job interviews don't mix. As unnatural as it may feel, completely silence or turn your phone off during an interview (and remember, vibrating phones can still be heard and are still a distraction).

4. Don't Sit Down Before You're Invited

Sometimes small courtesies can make a big impression. It's good business etiquette to not sit down until you've been invited or shown to your seat.

5. Don't Slouch

It may sound terribly old-fashioned, but posture matters. Standing tall and sitting up straight not only conveys a sense of maturity and experience to others, it can boost your self confidence.

6. Don't Talk Trash

Be honest, but stay positive when it comes to discussing your previous or current employer. The world is smaller than most of us imagine and it's impossible to know the personal or professional connections your interviewer may have.

7. Don't Talk Money

Don't talk money unless you're asked, or an offer has been extended. A premature focus on money and benefits sends the wrong message to your potential employer.

8. Don't Mumble

Hold your head up, speak clearly, and make eye contact. Employers shouldn't have to work to hear you and mumblers don't come across as capable, confident employees. Remember, good communication is a skill you can learn. 

9. Don't Up Talk

Up-talking is that annoying linguistic habit of phrasing statements as if they were questions ("I really enjoy my current position, but I think I'm ready for something more challenging?"). Up-talking implies you're unsure of what you're saying, need approval, and lack confidence. Sure, it seems like everyone is doing it, but up-talking is still the verbal equivalent of nails on a chalkboard.

10. Don't Skip the Questions

Your interviewer is likely to ask if you have any questions about the role or the company. Don't be shy. Speaking up shows that you're interested and have been listening.

Culled from wisebread.com

Man Crush Monday (MCM)

My name is Edozie Peter chigozie. aka Peejay Edozie 

I attended St Martin catholic school lagos then continued at St Feliz seminary lol, weird right? and holy infants high school both in Delta State. A graduate of English literature from the University of Nigeria. Super lion tinz lol.

As much as I would not like to say I started singing from d choir, I actually started singing from the choir in school before 2009 when I first worked with OJB on my first recording and 2010 when I got signed by Serengeti music alongside Godwon..

My major motivation in music was Tu face idibia. People always said we had a striking resemblance but for me it was his expression and originality..Next was P Square, they were just too good at the music business and made beautiful music so I decided to work hard to also make my mark in the industry.

 Music and school are two opposing spirits. It wasn't easy facing both so I had to focus on school while I followed up on the other, because  school was just four years but music is forever.  I must admit I had a good time performing in school as I was one of the major music acts in school at the time. Ask anybody!!! Lol..

My very first song ,Wiper , was done out of the desire to show the world how good I was. I wanted to be different and unique and it felt good, though I  did not  promote it as much but it was loved by everyone who ever listened and the reception was amazing.

Let us pray for Nigeria.....Mama T speaks

A friend and a colleague, Mama T of Lageli Fm, Ibadan,  put up this on her Instagram page and I totally agree.  Let us pray for our country Nigeria and the world at large.

Somebody knows by Eli J

Enjoy good music by Eli J (Mr.Fix It)

LYRICS:

I used to think Nobody knows(Nobody knows) Nobody knows ma name(Nobody knows) Nobody knows what today holds(Nobody knows) Nobody knows tomorrow(Nobody knows) I used to think Nobody knows(Nobody knows) Nobody knows what my future holds(Nobody knows) Nobody cares even if I live or die(Nobody knows) Nobody knows what I'm going through(Nobody knows) Then I found out That Somebody knows(Somebody knows) Somebody knows ma name(Somebody knows) Somebody knows what I dreamt about last night(Somebody knows) Somebody knows tomorrow(Somebody knows) Somebody knows(Somebody knows) Somebody knows all I put in(Somebody knows) Somebody knows about ma sleepless nights(Somebody knows) Somebody knows even when nobody knows(Somebody knows) Somebody knows when you're crying Those hurt and pain inside Questions that you need answers to Somebody knows
Somebody knows all that you need That's why he sent him to you So you'll only have Joy inside Feel peace inside And answers to the questions in your mind Somebody knows You have all dt u need!(ahhhh ahh ah)

Cos' Somebody knows (Interlude) Somebody knows(Somebody knows) Somebody knows your name(Somebody knows) Somebody knows all you put in(Somebody knows) Somebody knows what you do everyday (Somebody knows)ay-ay Somebody knows(Somebody knows) Somebody knows all all all (Somebody knows)all that you did Somebody knows (Somebody knows) You see you're important you can't die no more

Chorus:

(Somebody knows) Somebody knows when you're crying Those hurt and pain inside Questions that you need answers to Somebody knows Somebody knows all that you need That's why he sent him to you So you'll only have Joy inside Feel peace inside And answers to the questions in your mind Somebody knows

Cos You have all dt u need!(Ahhh Ahh Ah) Cos' Somebody knows Outro:

Somebody knows I know somebody who knows 

Don't leave, whatever it is

I call him Mr. Fix it… Yeah! Jesus knows Yes Jesus knows all you do Jesus knows Jesus knows

DOWNLOAD:

http://redmp3.cc/21580256/eli-j-somebody-knows.html

The magic that comes with smilling...

While waiting for the youngest of the brothers to be through with his scholarship exams yesterday, I decided to take a stroll and get a bottle of coca cola (the ideal drinks for happy people)lol, I found myself in a fun park for kids, I got in, asked if I could buy a drink and may be something to chew to save a life. Luckily they had not just something to chew but more than enough to chew. 

Oh well I reached out for the respected brand coca cola, ordered for a plate of chcken and chips (bestie's favourite meal), then walked towards the little dinning set they had, I took a seat beside a "grey-haired man" who at first sight looked like a professor, I sat beside him, exchanged pleasantries and concentrated on my phone (my office), 10 minutes passed and he asked what I ordered for, I smiled and told him it was chicken and chips and he said he ordered for same and wondered why it was taking eternity to get to him, with just that conversation brought more talks, I found out he was the head of forestry research, Ibadan, in less than five minutes, I knew more than enough, and yipee it was my turn, oh, I did not hesitate to dish out all about myself, with my diction on point, I even heard myself putting punctuation marks, just to show you how proper I sounded *smiles*.  

And in barely twenty minutes, a number was dialled, conversation that took place during the phone call landed me a feature movie voice over. As an igbo girl na, I had to play some of my recent voice overs just to boost my selling point.

In all of these, a simple smile and few minutes of being friendly and open can land you a big contract or the right person. No matter what it is, always afford a SMILE. It happens to be one of the cheapest things ever. 

So, SMILE, SMILE AND SMILE AGAIN this new week.

Happy Sunday Fam.

No man should ever hit a woman

Happy weekend Fam. A friend sent this to me few days ago and I decided to share.

I want to use this medium to appeal to men who for reasons known to them raise their hands on the wives they promised to love forever. And to also appeal to the ladies to work on themselves, learn how to control your words, because they pierce deep and kills the soul. 
Anger is a vice we all need to pray against, we actually need the Holy spirit to help us with this. I'm also talking to myself,been working on my anger and so far i'd say I am way way better than I was last year, 6 months ago and last month, change is slow but it comes in when you're determined to make a change. 

I have watched a woman at the airport, talk rudely at her husband openly, I closely watched the man's reaction, his face turned red, he was full of embarrassment, and she kept on talking and ranting. I also watched a lady slap a man in a bank just because he mistakenly hit her bag, oh yes, she got the beating of her life, I am not saying that was the best he could do, NO, I just think we need to control ourselves. 


While you think you're so angry and mad about something, he may just not be in the mood, he may be bothered about something, don't push your luck. Men are humans too, they may loose it someday, but all the same, dear sweet honey sugar pie husbands and boy friends please do not hit a woman. My dad would advise you "take a walk", cool off outside please.

Your Thoughts...

I had some few minutes with a respected old friend and he asked if I have ever been in love, and yes was my answer and he asked if I had him in mind or in my heart then. Want to read from you. I'll share his opinion.

HAD I KNOWN...by Loretta Okoh

You feel so lonely because you have got no beau and no one calls you bae. The social media becomes your best companion. On one of those days, someone sends you a request on facebook, you check his profile that speaks volume and wow,  his photos are breathtaking, he has different collections of cars mostly the latest in his garage. He may be the chosen man you say to yourself, you accept his request. He sends you exciting messages, he speaks your love language. You exchange numbers, he calls you all the time, makes your heart feel so happy. It's been long someone made you so special. 

He asks to meet you in person, so you set a date. He sends some money into your account.  Wow! Can this be real? You get a special dress as you want to make it special. You went to the salon and fixed the most expensive Brazilian hair. 

On the d-day, you dress up, smell nice with no underwear. He sends a driver to pick you up, and takes you to a 5 star restaurant. You also go to watch a movie in the cinema. All the while you feel so alive. He even looks better in person. He acts so gentlemanly and sweeps you off your feet with the way he makes you feel. You are already in love. He takes you to his house and makes you feel at home. He kisses you and it was warm and passionate,  you are already comfortable and he takes you to his bed. You're all wet. He helps you pull your clothes gently, whispering how much he loves you. You let down your defences as he makes love to you, by the time you requested for protection, he says it's already late. You enjoyed every moment. He gets you water and in your mind you want it to be forever. He gives you a bundle of N1000 notes. He stops a taxi that takes you home. You keep updating your bbm, and other channels about how the night has been the best. He calls you to know your present location until you got home. 

Unlike him, he calls you first thing in the morning, but this didn't happen the next day, you call his number which isn't available, you tried reaching him on facebook only to discover you've been blocked, you tried his whatsapp, you can't find him on bbm, he doesn't exist. What went wrong, was the previous night a dream? you ask yourself.  Tears start to flow. You thought he was the one. 

Days, turned into weeks, which turned into months. You feel weak and all you treated seems not to work, then you are advised to run some tests and then the result says you are HIV positive. 

  

What went wrong? You've been the good girl, the role model people look up to, the one who determines what she wants. This seems like a nightmare that needs to end fast, but no it is a reality. You don't even know the location of his house as the adrenaline that pumped up didn't make you know the exact location where he lives.  Hopelessness sets in as you already signed your death certificate while still alive. Lord please help me, you broke down on your kneels and you mumbled some prayers for miracle to happen. 

Is this the life of a big girl?

Is it the result of loneliness?

Is it the fact you needed to belong?

Had I Known, I would have.........

TO ALL THE LADIES, LIVE A GODLY LIFE WORTH CELEBRATING!

Is sex a want or a need? By Timipre

 

People define sex in different ways.. for some people, sex is a need. For others, it's a want.

Sex is a sexually motivated behaviour. 

For me, Sex is having an intimate intercourse with someone who you truly have feelings for. I love!

Is sex a need or want in Marriage?

I've spent a whole lot of time thinking about this question for some months now and was able to put these together..

I'd take sex to be a want..

Want means having desire for something..

Sex creates a strong bond between a man and his spouse and as the bible says : Husbands and wives should be fair with each other about having sex.  A wife belongs to her husband instead of to herself, and a husband belongs to his wife instead of to himself.  So don’t refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

A lady once shared her story with me. She said, My marriage started up all rocky but my sex life got terribly bad due to pregnancy, birth control pills etc. Luckily, I had an understanding husband who helped me build my confidence back. My want for sex grew deeply as time went on. He taught me how 2 initiate sex and how 2 deal with my emotions. 

Women, generally, feel loved by having their husbands take good care of them, be attentive, be caring, compassionate and talk to them.  Husbands, generally, feel loved by having sex, to know that their wife desires them. These aren’t the only ways, but I believe they are the strongest.

Lastly, Couples should love and respect each other, and not deprive themselves of sex. We should be willing to serve our spouses at any time.  

The sweet thing called "Relationship"...

Relationships seem tough and things don't get easier as time goes on, oh well that's what I've always thought or experienced. I love the idea, I love the pet names, I love the first few months, I love every emotional signal, I love that there's someone to disturb, someone that is ready to listen. I've been off any relationship for a while now, almost looks like I'm used to being single, #Hehe, but that's the truth tho. Allow me blow my trumpet a bit, i'm one who is loyal, respectable, loveable, caring, open as a book, just think of those good qualities that at the end would make you like you're worshipping the nigga, hmm....dont get me wrong o, I have faults ooo, I love perfection, I love to see things done in order, I attended a convent you know, so I've got some morals *winks*, had to leave the convent because it wasn't my calling biko, I can serve God and still be married. So I decided last year to work on myself very well, work on my faults, correct the wrongs from the last relationship. 

Hmmm, I indeed learnt a a lot from my last relationship, I was always paranoid, complained over nothing, and hey, finally, it crumbled *laughs*, painful but.... I picked up the pieces as a strong girl na even though I bruised but it was gentle. 

Lately I've seen people in relationships and they all look happy, excited and it just makes me miss having someone around, not someone i'd share but someone who i'd confidently call "Bae", I actually haven't genuinely used that word since its usage o, come to think of it, that's actually true. I had a friend of mine pick up a pack of sanitary towel for me at everyday emporium and it sounded so sweet to hear him call me "bae", well he did so because he was shy picking it up, guess he wanted the attendants to think he was getting it for his girlfriend,lol. 

Been rehearsing some good names to use for "papa Ginika" that's my soon-to-be-boyfriend. I haven't seen him but I need suggestions tho. Done with hanging out with luchi and yinka, I need me a Bae moment. *picks race*. By the way I fixed my nails after years, really difficult typing. Thanks to Tina Charles. 

Painless Pain by Chival

Pain !!!!!!!, the most popular four letter word,you might argue "Love" should take that title,but the first thing that accompanies a new born is pain. All new born cry and in cases where a new born doesn't ,pain is inflicted through a pinch on this tender and soft skin,and we all know what follows..
 
Pain doesn't have a standard for measuring which is more,the pain of the ones that bring the word "hopeless" alive or the pain of rape victims that have become familiar with their assailant because justice has been pushed far from them and they have lost the strength to be strong for themselves. The pain in a teenager been molested by her step father and her mum not believing believe her because she is blinded by love,at least that's what she calls it.


The pain that one feels cannot be compared to the pain of another,in the face of such situation the latter's pain becomes painless,sharing in the greater pain..
A lady who has all the material things that makes life good might have her heart broken and then she sinks into deep sorrow,extracting pains juice with her day and night dose of tears. Like Saul to Damascus,the mission to end the pain she feels in all that luxury ends when she feels the pain of the same gender who dare not hope for a better life because the end of the tunnel is too dark and they would prefer a million heart breaks than more seconds in their hopeless state.

I think pain lives in the picture of a child lying flat to quench thirst with colorful water of environmental birth,this child was granted independence at birth. What color would match pain if I choose to paint a picture???

A new week to Re-set

Surround yourself with the right people , get knowledge, impact in someone's life today. Thrive to have a symbiotic relationship , learn to give, share the wisdom and experience you have, refuse to always sit and take/ receive from people. Look inwards lovelies, you have a lot to offer. 

God gives us a new start—a chance to reset every single day.

Resetting doesn’t mean you won’t ever have problems. It means there is brand-new hope and new outcomes for the situations and circumstances you are facing. You will be blessed as you see how much God loves you, cares about you and desires for you to live in victory and freedom every day. 

Take a bold step of faith today into God’s ever-increasing favor, goodness and mercy for your life!



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