Sometimes I wonder how impatient some parents can be. There are hundreds of women out there crying everyday for the fruit of the womb, men going on their knees asking God to grant them a heir, many mothers praying for their daughters each day to give them grand children, mother in laws frustrating their daughter in laws to give them grandchildren. There are women going through pressure everyday, from family to wicked friends who laugh and talk about them behind them.
On the other hand, there is a family who has, not one, not two but a house full of children and the best way to treat these children is to beat them like goats and slaves.
I remember one beautiful morning, as early as 5am, a good time to wake school children up in Lagos to prepare them for school, so parents could drop them off and head to their places of work to avoid the demonic early morning rush traffic. I woke up with a banging headache, I woke up to the cry of a little child who sounded like he was going to die the next second, I could also hear the sound of a belt been whipped, a sound of a stool broken, the sound of someone being slapped, it sounded like torture, it sounded like the making of one of Sobe Charles' movie. I got up, rushed towards the window, as I tried to peep, to see if I can have a look at what was happening, I could hear the child gasp for air, I could hear him cry and begging "Daddy please forgive me,daddy I will die, daddy please, mummy please beg daddy for me, daddy you're killing me, daddy please...........I had tears in my eyes, I only imagined what the cause of this treatment was and then I heard the King of his home say, "next time you'll return my car keys where I asked you to", and my heart skipped. You mean this beating was just because the little boy did not return the key where you asked him to??? Haba, and dear mum couldn't rescue the boy, when the King was done and was satisfied he left the little boy, this same boy was expected to go to school that morning. Imagine waking up to such beatings and still expected to go to school. Parenting??? Is there no way our African parents learn good parenting? Why must you transfer aggression on these children, why must you show your frustration on these children?
I have also witnessed a mother wake young children with curses and abuses. I once listened to a pastor preach and he said, whatever word you sow in a child, stays in and yields that same seed sown in him/her. How do you wake up to curses, how do you wake up to early morning shouts, how do you open your mouth as a mother and abuse children just because they're not your blood? And then you hear words like, "I don't wish to curse them, I'm just going through alot".......Nonsense. What makes you a good mother? You think is feeding your child at the right time? Not scolding him when he goes wrong? Begging him when he does rubbish? Then lashing out at other peoples' 's children? You have God to deal with. I just feel it's complete wickedness and witchcraft. Work on your emotions, work on your problems, who told you these children do not also have their problems, you think your problem is greater than the next person? You must be kidding ma. Wake up to reality, you are the cause of your problems, work on yourself, choose to be happy, stay with the right circle. These children need happiness, give them the same treatment you give your child/children.
May God help us all.
