No man should ever hit a woman

Happy weekend Fam. A friend sent this to me few days ago and I decided to share.

I want to use this medium to appeal to men who for reasons known to them raise their hands on the wives they promised to love forever. And to also appeal to the ladies to work on themselves, learn how to control your words, because they pierce deep and kills the soul. 
Anger is a vice we all need to pray against, we actually need the Holy spirit to help us with this. I'm also talking to myself,been working on my anger and so far i'd say I am way way better than I was last year, 6 months ago and last month, change is slow but it comes in when you're determined to make a change. 

I have watched a woman at the airport, talk rudely at her husband openly, I closely watched the man's reaction, his face turned red, he was full of embarrassment, and she kept on talking and ranting. I also watched a lady slap a man in a bank just because he mistakenly hit her bag, oh yes, she got the beating of her life, I am not saying that was the best he could do, NO, I just think we need to control ourselves. 


While you think you're so angry and mad about something, he may just not be in the mood, he may be bothered about something, don't push your luck. Men are humans too, they may loose it someday, but all the same, dear sweet honey sugar pie husbands and boy friends please do not hit a woman. My dad would advise you "take a walk", cool off outside please.

Your Thoughts...

I had some few minutes with a respected old friend and he asked if I have ever been in love, and yes was my answer and he asked if I had him in mind or in my heart then. Want to read from you. I'll share his opinion.

HAD I KNOWN...by Loretta Okoh

You feel so lonely because you have got no beau and no one calls you bae. The social media becomes your best companion. On one of those days, someone sends you a request on facebook, you check his profile that speaks volume and wow,  his photos are breathtaking, he has different collections of cars mostly the latest in his garage. He may be the chosen man you say to yourself, you accept his request. He sends you exciting messages, he speaks your love language. You exchange numbers, he calls you all the time, makes your heart feel so happy. It's been long someone made you so special. 

He asks to meet you in person, so you set a date. He sends some money into your account.  Wow! Can this be real? You get a special dress as you want to make it special. You went to the salon and fixed the most expensive Brazilian hair. 

On the d-day, you dress up, smell nice with no underwear. He sends a driver to pick you up, and takes you to a 5 star restaurant. You also go to watch a movie in the cinema. All the while you feel so alive. He even looks better in person. He acts so gentlemanly and sweeps you off your feet with the way he makes you feel. You are already in love. He takes you to his house and makes you feel at home. He kisses you and it was warm and passionate,  you are already comfortable and he takes you to his bed. You're all wet. He helps you pull your clothes gently, whispering how much he loves you. You let down your defences as he makes love to you, by the time you requested for protection, he says it's already late. You enjoyed every moment. He gets you water and in your mind you want it to be forever. He gives you a bundle of N1000 notes. He stops a taxi that takes you home. You keep updating your bbm, and other channels about how the night has been the best. He calls you to know your present location until you got home. 

Unlike him, he calls you first thing in the morning, but this didn't happen the next day, you call his number which isn't available, you tried reaching him on facebook only to discover you've been blocked, you tried his whatsapp, you can't find him on bbm, he doesn't exist. What went wrong, was the previous night a dream? you ask yourself.  Tears start to flow. You thought he was the one. 

Days, turned into weeks, which turned into months. You feel weak and all you treated seems not to work, then you are advised to run some tests and then the result says you are HIV positive. 

  

What went wrong? You've been the good girl, the role model people look up to, the one who determines what she wants. This seems like a nightmare that needs to end fast, but no it is a reality. You don't even know the location of his house as the adrenaline that pumped up didn't make you know the exact location where he lives.  Hopelessness sets in as you already signed your death certificate while still alive. Lord please help me, you broke down on your kneels and you mumbled some prayers for miracle to happen. 

Is this the life of a big girl?

Is it the result of loneliness?

Is it the fact you needed to belong?

Had I Known, I would have.........

TO ALL THE LADIES, LIVE A GODLY LIFE WORTH CELEBRATING!

Is sex a want or a need? By Timipre

 

People define sex in different ways.. for some people, sex is a need. For others, it's a want.

Sex is a sexually motivated behaviour. 

For me, Sex is having an intimate intercourse with someone who you truly have feelings for. I love!

Is sex a need or want in Marriage?

I've spent a whole lot of time thinking about this question for some months now and was able to put these together..

I'd take sex to be a want..

Want means having desire for something..

Sex creates a strong bond between a man and his spouse and as the bible says : Husbands and wives should be fair with each other about having sex.  A wife belongs to her husband instead of to herself, and a husband belongs to his wife instead of to himself.  So don’t refuse sex to each other, unless you agree not to have sex for a little while, in order to spend time in prayer. Then Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

1 Corinthians 7:3-5

A lady once shared her story with me. She said, My marriage started up all rocky but my sex life got terribly bad due to pregnancy, birth control pills etc. Luckily, I had an understanding husband who helped me build my confidence back. My want for sex grew deeply as time went on. He taught me how 2 initiate sex and how 2 deal with my emotions. 

Women, generally, feel loved by having their husbands take good care of them, be attentive, be caring, compassionate and talk to them.  Husbands, generally, feel loved by having sex, to know that their wife desires them. These aren’t the only ways, but I believe they are the strongest.

Lastly, Couples should love and respect each other, and not deprive themselves of sex. We should be willing to serve our spouses at any time.  

The sweet thing called "Relationship"...

Relationships seem tough and things don't get easier as time goes on, oh well that's what I've always thought or experienced. I love the idea, I love the pet names, I love the first few months, I love every emotional signal, I love that there's someone to disturb, someone that is ready to listen. I've been off any relationship for a while now, almost looks like I'm used to being single, #Hehe, but that's the truth tho. Allow me blow my trumpet a bit, i'm one who is loyal, respectable, loveable, caring, open as a book, just think of those good qualities that at the end would make you like you're worshipping the nigga, hmm....dont get me wrong o, I have faults ooo, I love perfection, I love to see things done in order, I attended a convent you know, so I've got some morals *winks*, had to leave the convent because it wasn't my calling biko, I can serve God and still be married. So I decided last year to work on myself very well, work on my faults, correct the wrongs from the last relationship. 

Hmmm, I indeed learnt a a lot from my last relationship, I was always paranoid, complained over nothing, and hey, finally, it crumbled *laughs*, painful but.... I picked up the pieces as a strong girl na even though I bruised but it was gentle. 

Lately I've seen people in relationships and they all look happy, excited and it just makes me miss having someone around, not someone i'd share but someone who i'd confidently call "Bae", I actually haven't genuinely used that word since its usage o, come to think of it, that's actually true. I had a friend of mine pick up a pack of sanitary towel for me at everyday emporium and it sounded so sweet to hear him call me "bae", well he did so because he was shy picking it up, guess he wanted the attendants to think he was getting it for his girlfriend,lol. 

Been rehearsing some good names to use for "papa Ginika" that's my soon-to-be-boyfriend. I haven't seen him but I need suggestions tho. Done with hanging out with luchi and yinka, I need me a Bae moment. *picks race*. By the way I fixed my nails after years, really difficult typing. Thanks to Tina Charles. 

Painless Pain by Chival

Pain !!!!!!!, the most popular four letter word,you might argue "Love" should take that title,but the first thing that accompanies a new born is pain. All new born cry and in cases where a new born doesn't ,pain is inflicted through a pinch on this tender and soft skin,and we all know what follows..
 
Pain doesn't have a standard for measuring which is more,the pain of the ones that bring the word "hopeless" alive or the pain of rape victims that have become familiar with their assailant because justice has been pushed far from them and they have lost the strength to be strong for themselves. The pain in a teenager been molested by her step father and her mum not believing believe her because she is blinded by love,at least that's what she calls it.


The pain that one feels cannot be compared to the pain of another,in the face of such situation the latter's pain becomes painless,sharing in the greater pain..
A lady who has all the material things that makes life good might have her heart broken and then she sinks into deep sorrow,extracting pains juice with her day and night dose of tears. Like Saul to Damascus,the mission to end the pain she feels in all that luxury ends when she feels the pain of the same gender who dare not hope for a better life because the end of the tunnel is too dark and they would prefer a million heart breaks than more seconds in their hopeless state.

I think pain lives in the picture of a child lying flat to quench thirst with colorful water of environmental birth,this child was granted independence at birth. What color would match pain if I choose to paint a picture???

A new week to Re-set

Surround yourself with the right people , get knowledge, impact in someone's life today. Thrive to have a symbiotic relationship , learn to give, share the wisdom and experience you have, refuse to always sit and take/ receive from people. Look inwards lovelies, you have a lot to offer. 

God gives us a new start—a chance to reset every single day.

Resetting doesn’t mean you won’t ever have problems. It means there is brand-new hope and new outcomes for the situations and circumstances you are facing. You will be blessed as you see how much God loves you, cares about you and desires for you to live in victory and freedom every day. 

Take a bold step of faith today into God’s ever-increasing favor, goodness and mercy for your life!



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