We are quick to tag someone as "my friend", but there's just a lot to friendship. It goes beyond sitting and talking, sharing a drink and all the fun that comes just for the moment. You could know a person for 10 years or even more, but that is no guarantee that you are best friends.
Some friends are for the moment, some friends are real and true, some are ready to go an extra mile, some will tell the world just everything about you to the next person and to the next and to the next, even when you have no social tie with the person.
A lot of friendship haven't gone through that test, the test of trials, the test of going an extra mile, the test of having to keep secrets for each other. Having lots of friends and tagging all of them, close friends can be very dangerous. Truth is, a person who has almost fifteen very close friends is likely to share secrets of each of them amongst themselves.
Friendship these days, is totally different from what I used to know. It used to be genuine, sincere, void of envy, little or no see finish. A friend will never hide a thing, she would defend him/her even behind them and later confront him/her. Friendship used to be treasured, it used to be a means to talk and express one's self but these days we fear the "so-called close friends" and rather keep 90 percent of our plans to ourselves for fear of the whole world knowing. #Sad indeed. I am a fan of true friendship, a fan of "don't hide stuff from one another", a fan of accomodating my "close friend". These days our friendship is based on the "moment", most frindship sour when there's nothing to gain or when there's a new kid around.
![](https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjeotdpBFL33fp8Lv3oRta-PQR1JPEXbcxCRRs-9vnCmbbPlNM0_OT6UklEAfVoRH81eqBCv9oHWx4ulfAWKmPzWSnKHGbzpjDALwV8XoQWFoiKFmofYUReVvgghC17EF2NPSlM5R5pbfhN/s1600/images%252814%2529%25281%2529.jpg)
Friendship should grow beyond gossip, back biting, envy, "see-finish". Having a million friends with no common grounds, isn't healthy. Rather picking the ones that complement us and sticking to them, being around those that love us, keeping each others' plan away from others. It can be totally appauling when an acquintance who happens to be a "close friend's friend" walks up to you to ask a personal question that was discussed between you and the "close friend".
However hard it may seem, love your friends, respect all about them and strive to be that friend that can be trusted and can be called upon even at odd times.