The Bracelet maker....Mr. Timi

Never used to be a complete fan of bangles, till I came across TimiBracelets on Instagram. It looked classy, I loved he could customise it to any name or write up I wanted. I looked through his collections and it was amazing. I got in contact with the aspiring automobile photographer and bracelet maker, gave him my specifications, in less than a week I got my package delivered, before I saw my wrist candy (bracelet) I was wowed with the packaging, I smiled within me and opened my package, it was just fantastic, more than what I requested for, the black and the red, the neatly customised name. 

I'd recommend TimiBracelets anyday, anytime. Very affordable for ladies to get a pair for his and hers, lol. Join the bracelet Team.

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Bad parenting....

Sometimes I wonder how impatient some parents can be. There are hundreds of women out there crying everyday for the fruit of the womb, men going on their knees asking God to grant them a heir, many mothers praying for their daughters each day to give them grand children, mother in laws frustrating their daughter in laws to give them grandchildren. There are women going through pressure everyday, from family to wicked friends who laugh and talk about them behind them. 

On the other hand, there is a family who has, not one, not two but a house full of children and the best way to treat these children is to beat them like goats and slaves.

I remember one beautiful morning, as early as 5am, a good time to wake school children up in Lagos to prepare them for school, so parents could drop them off and head to their places of work to avoid the demonic early morning rush traffic. I woke up with a banging headache, I woke up to the cry of a little child who sounded like he was going to die the next second, I could also hear the sound of a belt been whipped, a sound of a stool broken, the sound of someone being slapped, it sounded like torture, it sounded like the making of one of Sobe Charles' movie. I got up, rushed towards the window, as I tried to peep, to see if I can have a look at what was happening, I could hear the child gasp for air, I could hear him cry and begging "Daddy please forgive me,daddy I will die, daddy please, mummy please beg daddy for me, daddy you're killing me, daddy please...........I had tears in my eyes, I only imagined what the cause of this treatment was and then I heard the King of his home say, "next time you'll return my car keys where I asked you to", and my heart skipped. You mean this beating was just because the little boy did not return the key where you asked him to??? Haba, and dear mum couldn't rescue the boy, when the King was done and was satisfied he left the little boy, this same boy was expected to go to school that morning. Imagine waking up to such beatings and still expected to go to school. Parenting??? Is there no way our African parents learn good parenting? Why must you transfer aggression on these children, why must you show your frustration on these children?

I have also witnessed a mother wake young children with curses and abuses. I once listened to a pastor preach and he said, whatever word you sow in a child, stays in and yields that same seed sown in him/her. How do you wake up to curses, how do you wake up to early morning shouts, how do you open your mouth as a mother and abuse children just because they're not your blood? And then you hear words like, "I don't wish to curse them, I'm just going through alot".......Nonsense. What makes you a good mother? You think is feeding your child at the right time? Not scolding him when he goes wrong? Begging him when he does rubbish? Then lashing out at other peoples' 's children? You have God to deal with. I just feel it's complete wickedness and witchcraft. Work on your emotions, work on your problems, who told you these children do not also have their problems, you think your problem is greater than the next person? You must be kidding ma. Wake up to reality, you are the cause of your problems, work on yourself, choose to be happy, stay with the right circle. These children need happiness, give them the same treatment you give your child/children. 

May God help us all.‎

This should help....

Staying sane....

Sometimes we create opportunities for ourselves to be insane and unhappy. Studying our environment and friends around would help us know if to stay put or take a walk. There are lots of unhealthy relationships, not necessarily an intimate one, could be casual, sister-sister, brother-brother, office friendship, childhood friendship, etc., once you find out you're unhappy or its not beneficial, the only sane thing to do is "Take a Walk". Some will say, we've been friends forever, she's been my childhood friend, we've know since high school, it won't be easy to cut out from him/her, NONSENSE. There is everything wrong with being in an unhealthy relationship, filled with gossip, dirty talks, no progress talk, no success talk, "no way forward talk", you find out many of them are mere opportunists, friends for the moment.

Here are some ways to stay sane:

1. Stay true to yourself

2. Be quick to cut away from any relationship you aren't gaining anything from

3. Keep off from friend(s) who talk about others, you won't be spared too, 'cos she would do same with you

4. Keep some secrets to yourself, you must not share everything about you to the next person

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5. Indulge yourself in activities that would make you happy or that can be beneficial

6. Stay happy

Cheers to the week......

It probably wasn't a good one the previous week. Failed contracts, cancelled meetings, delays, bounced cheques, disappointments from all sides, but it's never a reason to give up,NO. For every disappointment, there's a reason. It may become a blessing in disguise, it probably wasn't yours, it's probably not the right time to have it, you approached it wrongly. All you need is to plan, have an outline of what you want to achieve, have two or three plans, if one fails, try the other. The second you lean back to cry over a failed project, you have just paved a way for another person to take your chance. I advice that even when you want to cry, get up, work, you can cry inbetween but this time, get up with anger and re strategise, it works fine, it works perfectly well. 

I don't know how much you believe in yourself, I don't know how much of a strong person you are, I don't know how much of pain you can bear, I don't know if you see yourself as an overcomer.....I believe in my strength, I believe in grace, I believe in hardwork, I believe in happiness over all negativities, I believe I am flawsome 'cos no one is perfect, I believe I can make aan impact, I believe I am a strong woman, I believe I can change my world, I believe in papa Ginika,lol.

A better day ahead Fam. Believe in yourself. ‎

Happy birthday to the world's best friend, Sophie!

You are such a special friend,
You deserve everything good,
You make me smile,
You bring out the youth in me.

You are the best friend in the world,
I'm so grateful that I have you as a friend,
Thanks for believing in me,
Thanks for supporting me.

Here is wishing you great happiness,
Good health and success,
I am so lucky to have you as a friend,
Thanks to friendship.

I have a little wish...,
Can we be friends forever?
Yes, I know it's a Yes.

Happy birthday darling,
Age gracefully.
I love you Sophie.

I hope I did well with the short poem I composed. Happy birthday bestie.

The right time to move....

A friend shared this and I thought to share, well, it made a lot of sense to me. You should have something to hold. Read through:

Put a frog into a vessel fill with water and start heating the water.
As the temperature of the water begins to rise, the frog adjust its body temperature accordingly.
The frog keeps adjusting its body temperature with the increasing temperature of the water. Just when the water is about to reach boiling point, the frog cannot adjust anymore. At this point the frog decides to jump out.
The frog tries to jump but it is unable to do so because it has lost all its strength in adjusting with the rising water temperature.
Very soon the frog dies.
What killed the frog?
Think about it!
I know many of us will say the boiling water. But the truth about what killed the frog was its own inability to decide when to jump out.
We all need to adjust with people & situations, but we need to be sure when we need to adjust & when we need to move on. There are times when we need to face the situation and take appropriate actions.
If we allow people to exploit us
physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually or mentally they will continue to do so.
Let us decide when to jump!
Let's jump while we still have the strength.

This thing called friendship......

Have you ever imagined what people say about you? Have you ever heard some weird stuff about you? Have you wondered how much of your secrets are been told? Have you imagined the stories buttered with lies said about you? Sometimes it's better to be ignorant, sometimes it's better never to know what has been said about you. I hear on radio and TV, when people say about the strangest rumour said about them, and it amuses me like crazy. But now I am in the shoes of those who hear the most hilarious and insane stories about themselves. I think there should be a limit to what people formulate in their minds, it's just extreme evil to hear things that can only be heard as a make up story for movies or plays, you know that kinda thing right?

I'm not so sure how people condemn, lie and spread rumours and secrets to the world. I will one day and very soon write about the evil make up stories I have heard about me lately. It's crazy how people cook up stories like that??? For the love of God, this should be a friend? 

Friendship indeed has gone sour, just when I was recovering from the mild one earlier this year, BOOM, this hit me. Perhaps, I should play this as a script....It should sell big time. Haba, friendship is now about pretense, the interesting part is knowing a lot of stuff that has been said and playing along (nollywood drama inside friendship), really a sad one. 

We loose good friends just because we betray them, let out their secrets, play with the trust they ever had for you. Where lies true friendship? Where are good friends? Who do we share our little problems with and not have them in the ears of a thousand people. My children would know better than this, Papa Ginika and I will teach them well #Smiles. 

Enough said, I'm working on my premiere for my first movie- Gone Grey, directed by Sobe Charles Umeh and co-produced by Seyi Hunter. It should be a good one. Kai, but friends are dangerous sha, nawa. #SMH‎

My Natural Hair...

Tips for a healthy natural hair:

1. Use conditioner every time you shampoo.

Conditioner helps replace the lipids and proteins inside the hair shaft, as well as seal the cuticle to help prevent more damage from happening so that you can get your hair to grow longer and look healthier.

2. And don't shampoo every time you shower.

Here's why: The purpose of shampoo is to wash away dirt and product build up, but it can also take essential natural oils that keep strands soft and healthy along with it.

3. Apply an oil or mask treatment weekly.

Because hair that touches your shoulders or beyond can be several years old and most likely needs more TLC than normal conditioner.

4. Consider trying hair-boosting supplements.

Your body requires many vital nutrients to create new hair. Try a supplement to get these nutrients.

Meet the Entrepreneur.....Ruby!!!

Meet the beautiful mum and wife who loves fashion and has taken to a different level. She derives joy in styling and still keeps up the mummy and wifey roles combined with her 9-5. Amazing woman. Read through:

My name is Ruby, I have  always loved to buy and sell from a very young age and I  love love fashion!!! Smiles.... Though it now takes a lot more effort to dress up properly 

being a mum. 

I have always dreamt of being a Top fashion Consultant . I started really small with a few orders here and there, but been passionate about it, I have grown from the past years and it's a second source of income for me as well as been  financially independent. Oh well combining business with 9-5, mummy and wifey duties it's not a joke lol. But with God, passion, my amazing clients and the joy I derive from styling my clients, keep me going. 

To succeed in anything you need God and must be very passionate about it. I mean you must love love what you do!! Every woman can be financially independent, just pray check within and locate what you love doing best and start from somewhere till you get to the top. 

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Meet OUR WCW, the beautiful Barby

My name is Barbara Ukamaka Okwaraononobi. Barby is the 2^nd out of four amazing siblings and was born on 19^th of June. I don’t have a favourite food and I love music, art and books. A graduate of University of Nigeria and a young lawyer with an amazing personality.

Years before.....(Desperate Chicks)‎

Desperate Chicks was one of the best times of my life while in school. It all started after I did a little voice over for an artist in Manger Studios after which I was introduced to Stormrex and Ursla by Dekumzy and next thing we were scribbling away lyrics and cracking jokes. I had so much fun and also found myself in the process.  It was also pretty challenging because I was a Law Student and I must not flunk! I would go to the studio after classes and get back to school in time for a little studying and the next day of course. I figured if I had to do both at the same time without negative effect on my academics I had to put my head down. Amazingly, my parents never objected.

Desperate Chicks may not have made so much money but it was a talent-crazy driven group.  The beautiful thing about the group was the diversity in singing style. Stormrex, Ursla and I had different singing styles and most times we wanted to do the same song differently. I think that oddity was one
of the things that made the group unique back then. I totally enjoyed my time with Desperate Chicks, working with Dekumzy (our producer and manager) was creatively interesting. He is indeed talented and those 3 girls were amazing back then.

Being a Lawyer

I love what I do. I have been a Lawyer for 4 years now and it has been an exciting career. I did core Litigation for a year before going into Corporate Law Practice and Entertainment Law Advisory. I still sing but not as a commercial artist. It’s a God-given talent that must be used.  I still keep in touch with people I met in the music industry some of whom are actually my clients now.

There is always a reason for everyone we come across. Being nice, it doesn't cause a thing rather gives room for favour.‎

And yes, for the sake of famzing I have to post a picture of both us, it was three years ago tho but hey.....

IG: @barbytwits

Barby Okwaraononobi

LIFE AT THE ROUNDABOUT by Comedian Forever

As a kid i grew up to depend on my parents,

As an adult, i am growing to know that they now or would eventually depend on me.

As shocked as i am, i realise that the route with which i leave my house, is the route with which i return. 

I guess there's a roundabout where life naturally turns.

We defeacate to empty our stomach, of which the emptiness of the stomach prompted us to eat.

The barber needs someone to cut his hair too.

The singer needs to listen to songs.

The teacher has to be taught

The father was fathered 

The designer needs someone to take his measurements

The child grows to start walking while the old man grows to stop walking

The man who sells casket will be carried in one...

The roundabout is a place where we are enabled to turn round to the place where we started.

I believe that life is lived at the roundabout because we grow extremely old into the same dependence unto which we were born.

The end of life really takes us back to the beginning.

Life really ends where it started.

The best way to live is to die to life

In like manner, the earth ends it's day where it started.... 

It's not like you do for me and i do for you.. No...No..

It's natural. Everything you do just happens to you

That's why the man who does evil gets evil in return.

Thus the one who does good receives good in life

What goes around comes around.

Indeed life is lived at the roundabout. 

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Thoughts for the day, by African Mail

Marry your best friend. Marry someone who you wouldn’t mind waking up to every day for the rest of your life. The one who makes you glad to be alive. Marry someone who drives you crazy. The one who frustrates you. The one who calms you. Marry the one you don’t mind fighting with, because they will be fair about it. Don’t marry someone who gives their ego more importance, than they give you. Marry someone who makes you the best version of yourself. The one who believes in you, even when you don’t. The one who stands by you, through thick and thin. Marry someone you can’t imagine your life without. Marry the one you are "insanely" in love with. And the one who is "insanely" in love with you. Marry the one who knows what you want to say, when you’re too tired to say it with words. The one you can spend comfortable silences with from time to time. Marry your soul mate. Marry your best friend.

How many times are you going to keep ignoring the signs that someone doesn't want you? How many times are you going to keep arguing with someone about not loving you? If you are giving someone your all and you constantly feel depleted in the end, then you are giving your love to the wrong person. Anyone who understands love knows that, what you pour into me, I have to pour right back into you. Your peace and sanity is just as important. Your smile matters just as much. Stop trying to force your way into someone's life when there is someone else out there patiently waiting to invite you in.‎

Working out too much can mess with your period

By now you know that exercise can help alleviate your biggest issues. While that is still true,experts now say that overdoing it on the treadmill can act actually do the opposite an lead to hormonal imbalances, irregular bleeding, and excessive spotting. Now, this doesn't mean you get to write off your period as an excuse to skip the gym.

A clinical professor says its best to aim for 30 minutes of moderate exercise per day, and get plenty of rest.

Been a long time.....

I can't believe I ignored my baby (blog) for five days, my bad. Been super busy of late. Remember I said I had a new project I was to work on? Yeah, it came through, It finally did. 
I remember years back when my cousin tried to talk me into the movies, in his words "you can do this, you've got the zeal, you've got the drive and strength", but I saw myself always nonchalant about it. Sometime in December I had a rethink of a lot of stuff and ideas I had and decided it was time to put a lot to action, the movie production was one of my priorities, then an online radio and a few ideas I have up.
Procrastination wasn't one of the  vices I needed to bring in to the new year, so I put a call across to the cousin, his excitement wasn't hidden and of course, lots of encouragement from him. We scheduled meetings, I was schooled about the very vital parts of production, I was introduced to a few who have left an indelible mark in this industry. Then the plan, then the story, then the cast, the crew, then the budget, then the funds, then the execution.
Meeting with the cast and crew was exceptionally great and educative. Indeed everyone is important in his/her own way, everyone has a thing to offer. A day was scheduled for call time, we had selected days to camp for the shoot. I met the cast, they were simply amazing, Judith Audu- the popular actress, blogger, radio host and amazing personality made it easy, she's a definition of humility and a teacher too, despite the accident on set, she kept on working. Total dedication to work, we love the beautiful Judith and admire her strength. Stanley Nze- the ever cheerful soul, good actor, great singer and indeed a true MOG, made it easy. Uncle Funso Adeolu is a father, a genius, a veteran in this, effortless in his work and I must add very patient. Tamara Eteimo- the beautiful, classy and easy going one who taught me some essential ingredients about the job and would say "don't worry production must go on". Angel Vara- the happy and ready to work wife and actress,made it easy with her smiles and support. Oh and there was Boj, Blessing and Amaka- great actors, who gave out their best effortlessly.
To the crew- the PM, the gaffer, DOPs, continuity, sound, the driver.....it was amazing. And to Seyi Hunter, the actress and co producer- active and strong willed, to the Director, Sobe Charles Umeh- the genius on set, hard worker, always cheerful, a creative personality. It was totally awesome.
Big shout out to this cast and crew of Gone Grey.