30 is the new 25

I love the figures 3 and 0. I love the age 30. It is sometimes scary but, i'm living it just right. There were panics before I turned 30 and I realised it was same for few people I spoke with and it's still same for those who are about to turn 30. I also know being thirty and unattached remains a source of anxiety. Concerns range from the biological clock to having all married friends to pressure at home (for some) to meeting the right person (always on the edge after a simple "hello" with a male stranger) and a couple of other concerns. Some ladies at thirty and above who are unattached, unconsciously have crawled back to their shells which shouldn't be.

It's a period to be happy, don't feel like a failure, seize the opportunity to find yourself, it's an opportunity for us to put ourselves first, it's sure not an act of selfishness but an act of self hood. 

Don't wallow in self pity, it's not a plague, it's not a death sentence. Stay happy. Prioritise the kind of man you want, if you're looking for the Brad Pitt, the Bill Gates and the likes, then be prepared to pull it. Whatever your choice is, be sure it can complement you. 

I have decided to stay and always stay attractive not just physically but also by my attitude. Oh well, doesn't mean I intend to be perfect 'cos I CAN'T, I mean no matter how hard we try, we can't be perfect, last I checked, no one but God is perfect. And yes, it's the period to cut out from time wasters, people who just love the idea of being together with you (like my friend will say) and not the idea of being an item,Nah....run from such, you're only going to increase the number of years you'd waste. We don't want that, do we? NOPE. 

I also figured from group discussions, that some ladies are single or prefer to stay single because of series of hurts, heartbreaks, deceit, disappointments, but hey sisters, wake up, he has moved on. You also need to move on, I know you must have wasted a lot of time, dedicated your whole time and all that but common, look at it this way; it wasn't supposed to be, you weren't meant for each other, there are a thousand and one reasons lovelies, there are. Pick up the pieces, dust your shoes and move on. Start all over. Don't hold back. Love again and again and again. 

Step out with style and please never change for anyone. But you know, we also need to work on ourselves, character, approach, you know all that matters more than the positions during bed, that is just for few minutes, the daily living and interaction matters a lot. Let's get something straight here, I am also working on myself, im only trying to pass some knowledge across, something we could all try. #Winks.

So quit staying indoors and stop the "i'm too old for this and that" or being overly picky. How do you intend to meet Mr. Right if you don't socialise biko? I read a caption last month: "no guy will break into your house to marry you". You need to look beautiful at all times and give 25 year old ladies a run for their money. Please don't allow the 30 year old syndrome get to you.

30 is the new 25. The way you carry yourself will determine how a guy will treat you and not your age.