In a space of one year, you may find yourself in about four/five relationships. There's always a reason to leave, some say, "she's just not the one, he was just a......, I couldn't bear, he was a cheat, her character was a write off, and bla bla bla.
Sometimes, I wonder how we never think for a second that we could be the problem. We often do not do a self-check, to find out where we are going wrong, what we are getting wrong.
I'm probably a victim of this and so I had to ask myself some questions,
What does it mean that I keep dating wrong people?
- Am I doing something wrong?
- Am I attracting the wrong people?
- Am I in a hurry to be in a relationship?
- Is there something about my character I need to work on?
- Do I need space?
There were just lots of questions that crossed my mind. I read a few articles and spoke to a few who gave me good words.
First step was: I decided to stop dating for a while.
Secondly, to be honest with myself
Thirdly, accept people for who they are
Fourthly, try not to blame people and always stay true to anyone I meet.
If you have found yourself in this circle of running round circles, TAKE A BREAK, RUN A SELF CHECK, STAY HAPPY, ACCEPT PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE. Real maturity comes in when you look inside to see what's really going on with you. Stay true and honest.
Today is the world's international wedding day. Congratulations to all walking down the aisle, may God bless and sustain your new home. To the young ladies who probably will check their whatsapp and bbm updates, don't kill yourselves over the wedding dresses you see, the engagement ring, the fabulous hall and the pre wedding photo shoot. It's about staying married and not getting married. It will get to you.
Well said ,i love this post,i just feel its about destiny....sometimes luck....Even if you follow all these principles,its possible it still doesnt work out..Always put everything before God.
ReplyDeleteit is not principles,it is just being real and true to yourself. lying to yourself when you are clearly seeing it the way it is....that is you hurting yourself. i can relate to this and it works especially if you define the relationship. ride on sis. we gat you but God has our backs any day, anytime
ReplyDeletePerfectly spoken. Knowing yourself first is key to a happy relationship. We spend so much energy and time trying to know who we are with, to make it work, to have an illusion of a prefect relation with your man or woman without fishing deep in ourselves. Life has taught to know ones' being is to be almost complete. When we are certain of ourselves it's only right and fair to put another human on the path of a relationship.
ReplyDeleteSpot on @Sylvester.
ReplyDelete@sophire, experience tells it all from your tone. Bless up sis.