Some friends share their thoughts on Domestic Violence

The beautiful Ebony, Ogechi Okoro, a medical lab scientist speaks:‎

I think domestic violence is a community problem and not personal and should be treated as such, most of us know someone(a neighbor,friend, colleague,family) going through domestic violence right now but we do nothing for the fear of being termed nosey, we ll rather choose to "mind our business". It takes a lot for a victim to speak up and report the abuse then we hear things like, "its a family case" from even our police that swore to protect us. How then are these victims supposed to get help? Most are shamed into accepting the blame, they crawl back to their partners. Some however decide to cover up for the bully in the name of "am staying for my kids" I still don't understand how its better to raise a child in such toxic environment, the boys will grow up thinking its ok to beat  women and the cycle continues. Some are lucky to escape with their lives, others not so much. As hard as it may be most women see the signs even when still courting but they simply conceal it cos the want to get married or believe they ll change. I think we should be our neighbors keeper, that woman that always covers bruises with sunglasses, the one that always claims to have had a domestic accident? Talk to her, make her comfortable to talk to you, don't blame her or spread the gossip, assure her its ok to speak up, we have lot of NGOs that can help her, all she needs is your help. 

From the Media Personality, Elo-Oghene Oletu says; 

On domestic violence:  A horror to any family and loved ones. never saw my parents fight but nevertheless saw some scarring scenario while I was in the university, terrible beatings that scarred the girl so bad that I just don't get why she could not walk away. but fortunately, the story ends well because after graduation, she meets someone else, got married and now enjoys peace.

But the question is why would a man hit a woman, is it as a result of psychology trauma of watching the same with their parents or just plain madness?

Esther Chiazor, CEO Uchyzz Event planning and Catering services also has this to say about Domestic Violence;

We need to understand  that women are amazing and wonderful, everybody makes mistakes. There isn't any perfect relationships found in the history of research and we human should never let our emotions take over us by anger and other means.

When we fall prey to violence we expose ourselves to the effects of violence against women such as:

1 it leads to a broken relationship, this is because human emotions is powerful and the mind of man is an important tool to change things for better than good or destroy happiness.

2 it leads to a broken home, wen couples ain't about peace, they need up in destruction... So,because of mistakes and lack of forgiveness.

3 lack of solutions and satisfaction to a lady and sincerity can lead to unfaithfulness, the truth is important to every women and your in abilities to tell the truth can lead to many crazy events such as cheating, lies, bad words etc, etc.

4 women are every emotional and their hearts is just like the diadem of diamonds, as a man when you ain't doing the right thong s, it can lead to suicide and that can put a,an on trouble or have him spend the great of his life in prison.

5 lacks of sacrifice can lead a woman  into cheating and mess. Simply because you ain't doing the right things.

6 women are like flowers, without water, they are out of beauty...I mean emotional beauty, physical beauty, and spiritual beauty and these can lead to problems in relationship or marriage.

7 women are powerful, that simply mean they can do any thing to have their or ,an back to them wen the love is great and ready to kill or die.

8 when a man talks over everything and don't let go, it leads to emotional break down and suicide mission to take the man away from his life's purpose and both parts will end up useless.

From a man's perspective, Mr. Chival an OAP shared his opinion;

Domestic violence  sounds like aggressive behavior within the home, typically involving the violent abuse of a spouse or partner,the general view that comes to mind is a man hitting a woman,and then the mind judgment happens,the man is evil...how about its a
moment of the other saying,its enough,a man can hit a woman and a woman can hit a man,except that men are ashamed to admit it that's why there are few cases, there is uncontrolled temper rise,and then the body begins to adjust to what finally quenches the temper and finally addictive....the effect is for the one who succumbs,that one loses confidence within the home and accepts even a beating,with the believe that it will satisfy the beater,so they put in their personal life.‎

Sophie, bestie and IT personnel also shared her thoughts; 

I would say the moment you even perceive it....RUN. RUN as fast as you can and never ever look back,dont even think about it for a second coz it aint worth it. Why would you want to be a punching bag for another person,why? You are far to precious for that.

If you are a victim it would affect you not only physically  (for all to see) but emotionally,mentally,psychologically......

Ohhh and this is just a summary of what i have to say. These culprits should be severely dealt with coz they even go as far as hurting children,innocent children.  Please dont even get me started on this topic