Self esteem or self image is a picture that you have of yourself. Many factors contributes to a person having low self image. For some it comes natural and genuine while for others, some factors are responsible for it. Factors like abuse at tender age, domestic violence between parent, past failures, bullies, shyness, fear, illiteracy etc. Low self esteem make you have a critical and judgmental view of others.
Research has found that people with genuine low self image tends to treat themselves badly not others.
Just like attitude can not be hidden, low self esteem can easily be detected when you are around a person with it. Today, i will share few characteristics of low self image.
A pessimistic outlook of life : Low self image makes one to be pessimistic. Unconsciously, you forget to be grateful for what you have but grab any opportunity to complain about what they don’t have. You are always looking for cracks in the mirror of life.
Self consciousness : Low esteem always make you feel you are poorly dressed for any occasion or you are the lease educated or less attractive.. Etc. All this contribute to make you want to hide behind your shadow so no one sees or interact with you. It makes you lack confidence in your social skills and abilities for fear of failure.
Defensive in conversation : When you see someone who always want to win an argument or who is quick to be on the defensive side or someone who always want his/her voice to be heard then you are looking at someone with low esteem. They always feel the need to talk or feel better than others. Depending on the conversation, they either talk more and listen less or talk less and listen more.
Developing clinging relationship : So you feel wanted and important, you start to develop clinging friendship or relationship with people who don’t even remember you exist or appreciate your company. Creating the impression like you have a good number of VIP or VVIP on your connect when in reality those people don’t know your name or have your contact. Like seriously..... Who are you hoping to impress with your fake life?
Inability to accept praise : Have you noticed that people with low esteem don’t like complement? They feel you are indirectly insulting them. Being a mindset thing, it makes it difficult to accept praise when it comes because your low esteem tells you they are lying to you. In fact you reject the complement even before they come. Lol.
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I totally agree with your fourth point on clinging friendships.. I've got some friends like that. How can they get help?
ReplyDeleteHello Anonymous... Thanks for your comment. A quick answer to your question on clinging friendship, self love is the first help such a person need.That person needs to realize their self worth, needs to learn how to love his/her self and enjoy their own space and company.
ReplyDeleteThey need to realize that no matter their looks or defects, they are still special in their own way. No one is perfect including those friends they are trying to cling to. Once you can achieve all this, you don't to cling around people just to feel wanted or important. In fact you will be the one selecting your friends because you know your worth and don't need anyone to make you feel you're trending.
Thanks Gift. This makes a lot of sense as I have been opportune to relate with quite a number of people dealing with low self esteem.
Deletei believe as a friend you should try nd communicate with these kinda people and help build their self esteem. they would be forever grateful when you do.
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